According to research there are generally 10 stages in the grieving process. If you are grieving and you are experiencing any of these symptoms, realize that they are quite normal and in many ways a necessary part of the process.

1. Shock and surprise. News of someone's death is almost always a shock. The reality of the death may occur in a few minutes or a few days.

2. Emotional release. The release of tension and feelings is necessary and usually occurs at the funeral or with family and friends, but it is only the beginning of the grieving process.

3. Loneliness. After the funeral, when family and friends have gone home, feelings of emptiness may occur. Feelings of loneliness, isolation, and depression begin.

4. Physical distress and anxiety. This stage can make the person feel so alone that he or she may develop the same physical symptoms that the deceased had.

5. Panic. It may become difficult to concentrate on anything because of constant memories of the deceased. In fact, this may cause a person to worry about his or her own stability. Not knowing what to do or what is happening can result in panic and weakened self-esteem.

6. Guilt. The surviving person dwells on the things he or she could have done for the deceased. They may also feel responsible for the person's death.

7. Hostility and projection. This is a difficult stage for relatives and friends because the survivor suddenly becomes hostile to those whom he or she thinks could have prevented the death. Family and friends should try to be tolerant and non-defensive.

8. Lassitude. The person suffers in silence, weary from the depression and frustration. Becoming more active is the answer.

9. Gradual overcoming of grief. Through the affection and encouragement of friends and family, gradually a new meaninng of life unfolds. The person's outlook becomes brighter and more realistic.

10. Readjustment to reality. Recalling the deceased becomes a pleasant experience and planning for the future becomes more realistic.