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Helping Children Understand Death
Helping Parents Cope With Losing a Spouse
Helping Others Experiencing Grief

Helping Parents Cope With Losing a Spouse

What can you do to help your parent through his or her grief when
a spouse dies? This is one of the major losses in life, but there
are things you can do to help.

Acceptance--Be accepting and supportive of the new person your
parent becomes in the wake of this devastating loss. Support him or her
in new ventures and new friendships. Your parent must find a new way to
live, and build a new life for himself or herself.

Decisions--Let your parent decide when and how to dispose of the
deceased's clothing and personal items. Some may not be ready to do this
right away. Others may want to get it over with almost as soon as they
get home from the funeral.

Family Traditions--Let your family traditions change and evolve
to fit your family's new structure. Don't force things that don't work
without the deceased, or that are exceptionally painful without him or

Independence--Help your parent be independent. Teach him or her
something new that the deceased used to do rather than taking it on yourself.
This could be anything from balancing the checkbook to maintaining the
car to cooking.

Major Decisions--Encourage your parent to delay making major decisions,
such as selling a home or moving to a new part of the country--for at
least one year after the death. Discourage other major financial decisions
as well.

Money--Your parent may be tempted to loan money to family or friends.
Help them resist this urge, at least until they have a better understanding
of their new financial circumstances, whether it's for better or worse.

New Life--Encourage your parent to make a new life for himself
or herself. Encourage him or her to make new friends, take up new activities,
and find new focus in life.

Talking--Talk about the deceased parent. Tell stories, and bring
up his or her name often. Talking about the person keeps the memories alive
and helps the healing process.

Telephone--Call your parent frequently, and make sure they feel
comfortable calling you more often. A surviving parent may become very
dependent on his or her children for communication and companionship,
at least in the short term.

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